the promised list

hey, i've worked on Christmas presents all day...i needed a break.

hmmm…what is my definition of a perfect guy?

-he’s catholic. that’s a biggy. i won’t even consider courting someone who isn’t at least going through RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults). with all the other trials in marriage, who wants to add an issue as big as religion into the mix? my faith is the defining factor in my life…how can i share my life with someone who does not share my faith? that's just a recipe for marital difficulties...i've met people who have married outside their religion, and the arrangement is just awkward.

-he’s got to accept me for myself. every ounce of scatterbrained me. if he can’t do that for even two or three hours, he certainly wouldn’t be able to do it for the rest of our lives.

-he’s a gentleman, performing the gentleman’s role. willingness to open doors and carry things is only a small part of this…it is also willingness to talk to my parents about his intentions. cause i’m an old-fashioned girl…i’m gonna send any guy through fire and brimstone…he’s gotta talk to my dad before he’s ever gonna get ME on a date with him.

-he treats me like a queen…i mean, face it guys…do you really think that you’ll convince a girl to marry you if you treat her like a pile of trash?

-he takes the role of leader. i’m no feminist…men were made to be the head of the household, and i respect that. it’s part of who they are as men. he is willing to lead a family in spiritual and corporal matters.

-this one is a killer…he is willing to follow the words of St. Paul. “Men, love your wives as Christ loved the Church.” i will do my part and be submissive to my husband, but it is so much easier if he will love me with the kind of sacrificial love that Christ had for the Church…for every one of us.

-he needs to have a good relationship with his family. without the support of family, society would be falling…falling…falling…(hmm, i wonder what it’s doing now…:P)

-with the same token, he needs to be good with kids. i’m from a big family; i love the big family dynamics and hope to have one myself one day, God willing.


i think that’s it in a nutshell. at least, that’s all that’s come to mind at the moment. like i said, i’m not looking right now.

notice that good looks are nowhere on the list. they would be a plus, but for all i know, my perfect guy is as ugly as a baboon’s backside. and i honestly don’t care. because, if he has all these qualities, and has a strong faith in God, then the beauty of his soul will overpower the physical shortcomings. we’ve all met people like this in our lives…a light seems to shine from within that makes them truly beautiful.

ok, now that i have had my break, i shall return to my Christmas presents. only three left now...

-enna